If there’s one thing life has taught me. It’s that we are our own worst critic. Other people’s false opinions of us in our formative years help us form the opinions we hold of ourselves in the years to follow. It’s not particularly helpful. She’s shy, she’s not very confident, she’s a bit scatty. He’s not very clever, he’s socially awkward, his boisterous.
The thing is, we are not these things…we are whoever or whatever we want to be. We are pure potential and if only the voice that shouted the loudest when we were working out what we were to become was the voice that screamed “YOU CAN DO IT” we would be looking at a very different us right now.
But that is not to say that this you can’t emerge. We are always growing, always changing and there is no limit to what we can do with the right mindset. What if we went back and turned every “You can’t” into an “I can”, every cruel word into a kind one? Or observe these cruelties as a third party and intervene on our own behalf?
If we could love ourselves with the compassion of a parent, or a friend and encourage ourselves to progress with a supportive smile and the belief that we can achieve anything we set our mind and heart , there would be no boundaries to what we could become.
So the next time somebody says something unkind, something unsupportive or derogatory, please, don’t believe them. Instead, be your own cheerleader and remind yourself that actually, you are quite brilliant and capable of great things.